Reflections Untrue (Quick Food for Thought)

We all have said something to the degree of, "Damn he/she is fine!" or "I would want to be that person for just one day!", but how many times after the discovery of our affinity (even for a split second) have we actually stopped and thought about that person or their lifestyle? The answer is probably almost never and that it was just a passing moment.

As we all know everything that glitters isn't gold, we still find ourselves (though it is never admitted) wanting a piece of someone else-whether it is something physical or it is a characteristic or quality. Ironically the visual or quality that catches our attention sometimes is a visage. Celebrities are known for this. They appear to have it all-money, attention from all-pretty much almost anything they want they can get. Close the doors and they are anorexic, alcoholics, drug-abusers, murderers, rapists and much more. The attractive female that turns heads could be in an abusive relationship but hides it by what she wears or how much she drinks or smokes. That guy that catches your eye may have HIV thus given the perfect opportunity, he will be more than happy to pass it onto you. Your co-worker who is embraced by all is climbing the corporate ladder very quickly and appears to be on the right side of his career but at what expense? He goes home every night after work to a cocktail of alcohol and anti-depressants all because the stress of keeping all of his superiors satisfied is unbearable.

Admiring is cool. Gawking at what you like is cool as well. Just think how many people would be turn-offs if we really knew their story at first glance!



“Deception is a cruel act... It often has many players on different stages that corrode the soul.” -Donna A. Favors(Member of the Board of Directors of the Montgomery Institute, 1955)

That Was Not Expected

No two days are exactly ever the same. Even if you follow the same daily routine-awake,shower, travel to work, etc-something is going to happen in the present day that did not occur in the previous day. Deviation is a part of life, how we handle it is at our own discretion.

One minute you are on top of the world feeling as if things can not get any better then suddenly the unthinkable occurs-LIFE. You lose your job, your companion cheats on you, you get into an accident, or a loved one suddenly dies-all factors that can definitely off set your Feng Shui. Are you going to get depressed and derailed in life? Of course, but what is important is that you have to find a way to get back up! You have to find a way to remember what initially had you high on life. Yes it will be tough to overcome such loss but understanding that life goes on and that tests are made to challenge your will and surpass, you will bypass the dark days.

Now I am no more of a motivational speaker than the next person, in fact I am a far cry from such a person, but some conversations I engage in with people instantly makes me a listener who wants to reach out and offer kind words. Currently there are some people in my life that are going through situations which would even make me-a very laid back person-lose my cool. There are also people in my life that are riding very high on life and living everyday to the fullest. Fortunately and in some instances unfortunately, life is just as volatile as the economy. If your life is currently in a recession, brace it well or if it is currently experiencing a surplus, stow away those good feelings for a rainy day because you will need them sooner than you think.


“Unexpected travel suggestions are dancing lessons from God” -Kurt Vonnegut Jr. (American Writer)

Green light....Red Light!

What is it about humans and our need to start something yet not finish it? Is it the need to feel as if you are doing something to stay busy or feel important? Do random things in life impede the completion of the task or tasks? Is there a loss of motivation, drive or ambition that discourage us from following through to the end? Or, is it a trend at the moment that we need to be apart of just to feel relevant in our circles? We may never know!

Over the past three and half months I myself have started and stopped and started and stopped and started and stopped a few projects. I wanted to, and still do might I add, start a business centered around one of my passions-Djing. I have gone from being submerged with everything from creating logos to researching the proper way to complete a business plan to just being simply disinterested. Another project I am on again and off again with is assisting a very good friend with a website that could potentially be successful if executed properly. One minute I am on fire with ideas and the next I am on the couch just randomly searching the web and looking at porn time to time. It is really sad because this has been a recurring problem for me since college thus I am known as the man who is only inspired for 15 minutes. Ironically as I type this, I am thinking to myself how long will I keep this blog up before either I become disinterested or too lazy to write?

The fact that I am aware of this and am constantly reminded of it by loved ones somehow still does not motivate me enough to change! Well it does but nothing monumental just yet-it's coming, I promise. Am I a loser? A no good son of a bitch (don't talk bad about my mama)? I personally think I am neither, but you probably think otherwise!

All in all new days come and old ones pass. I intend to better myself before it is too late and I suggest you do the same-before we all are sitting somewhere reflecting on the fact that we did not accomplish anything meaningful in life and that we never gave anything our all. Finish what you start and make it a habit of doing so.


“I'm going to stop putting things off, starting tomorrow!” -Sam Levenson(American Author and Humorist)

Hold Your Head High, Never Down!!!

"Confidence is a state of mind. Lack of it is a state of being." -Anonymous

There are several factors-whether externally or internally- that may hinder one's self-confidence, such factors may include people and their opinions and ideologies, failure, fear, opportunities (or lack of), drugs (take the right one and you too may believe you can fly) and much more. As well as there are factors that pose threats to a person's confidence, there also exist factors that may elevate one's confidence. For starters, self-evaluation is a good measuring tool. Try to figure out what makes you happy and/or what draws others to you (personality, looks, swagger, etc…). Doing this shall allow you to highlight characteristics that should either make you feel bitter or make you feel proud-hopefully the latter. Once that is done take a look at those who you consider your "real" friends. Now ask yourself "Are these people sincere and honest?" "Do they point out my weaknesses as well as my strengths?" and "Do they help me become a better person or not?". Hopefully your responses will be positive thus reassuring yourself and therefore establishing some confidence.

Do whatever it takes to find confidence in yourself. Once you acquire such a thing in life it will definitely show but be careful and keep it to a minimum because no one really enjoys the company of a narcissistic person. With the right level of confidence, the more attractive you become to everyone. If you are a guy other guys want to secretly be you or want to try to hang around you hoping that what you have rubs onto them. Many women will notice your new found swagger and may even pay you a little more attention. If you are a woman who has more than a flair of confidence, you may come across as a Bitch to some because they simply can not grasp the idea of such a being exists. In fact they too want to be you or with you!

So when something does not go your way or if someone is trying to bring you down or if you awake one day not feeling positive, just shake it off and do not allow such forces to affect your psyche.

“With confidence, you can reach truly amazing heights; without confidence, even the simplest accomplishments are beyond your grasp."-Anonymous